When trying to pick out a new sex toy, there a lot of things to take into account. From your budget, to your preferences, to added features, there’s a lot to consider. This is especially true for plus sized women – it’s easy to be stuck browsing a sex toy shop and wondering if any of these toys were made with you in mind.
Many BBWs come to me complaining about toys that don’t reach easily around their curves or positions that are difficult to maintain, so I’ve developed a list of my top recommendations for plus size sex toys to help give you an idea of what might work for you!
Many vibrators designed for external use are going to be petite and that can sometimes make it difficult for many plus size women to get them exactly where they want. The added length of a body wand is going to mean you have the reach to get those vibrations anywhere you want to put them. My personal favorite is the Magic Wand Unplugged, it’s one of the most powerful vibes on the market and the vibrations come in a nice deep rumble, spread out across it’s broad head, to vibrate through layers of tissue and get to the deepest erogenous zones.
If you’re looking for something more focused, vibrators like the Mood Frisky G-Spot Vibrator or the Bgee 7” G-spot Vibrator are classic G-Spot designs that double as external bullets with a nice long handle. While their power can’t compare to the Magic Wand, they do offer more precision than a wand can. The motor is surprisingly powerful for a battery operated toy and the low price point makes these a great option for newbies to vibration.
You can always use only part of the length of a dildo, but you can’t add inches, which is why I often recommend people pick up a longer toy than they think they’re going to need. This is especially true if you are a BBW. Picking out a dildo a few inches longer than you might be looking for, or even a double dong, means you are going to be able to use that extra length outside of your body like a handle.
If you like G-Spot stimulation, look for toys that feature a large head, or a defined curve. The G-Spot is in the first 1-3 inches of the vagina so by targeting it you can get some intense stimulation without much depth. The Tantus Uncut #1 for instance has both a curve and a pronounced head that, when combined with its girth, will easily massage the G-Spot on each thrust. The Colours Pleasures 8” is great for people looking for a firmer or more budget friendly option, and it even has a suction cup which means you can ride it on a chair or shower wall. Plus it comes in rainbow!
Similar to the way a longer dildo will give you more reach, toys designed to be used as a “strapless strap-on” can do the same. They are designed a bit like an L laying on it’s side with a bulb designed to be worn inside another person while they penetrate you, which makes a fantastic handle for solo use. Picking up a toy like the Realdoe or the Love Rider means you get the added leverage of this handle curved up towards your hand, making it easier to thrust deeper or faster than you might be able to with a more traditional design!
Rabbit Style Toys
Dual stim toys, toys designed to hit the clit and the G-Spot at the same time, are always popular, but it’s incredibly difficult to find one that works well. The external arm needs to be the right length to hit the clit in the right way, while the internal arm isn’t too deep or two shallow. It’s like the least sexy Goldilocks role play ever. When you’re a curvy girl you have the added difficulty of stubby external portions and hard to access control panels, luckily there are a few options out there making things a little bit easier.
The We-Vibe Nova has a large, curved external arm that adjusts to fit your body, allowing you to insert the curved G-Spot shaft as deep or as shallow as you want, and allowing it to stay in place while you thrust. Not only that, but it’s Bluetooth compatibility means you can hook it up to your phone and lay back to control the vibrations on your touchscreen while the vibe does all the work. For some extra fun, give over the control to a lover and let them vibe you off from across the room or across the world!
The Loki Wave and the Ina Wave offer the same delightful G-Spot curve with two different shapes to the outer clitoral portion. The Ina is perfect for people who like a little bit more pressure, while the Loki takes a gentler approach (the Mona Wave also exists, for people who would like to leave external stim to a different source entirely). While it’s true that the Wave line suffers from the problem of a stubby and hard to reach handle, their function makes them truly unique. See, that bulbous shaft actually rocks back and forth against the G-Spot like a pair of fingers that never gets tired. While you may not be able to control them with your phone, once you set them to your favorite speed you can just lay back and let the Wave do the work!
Although not designed specifically to get you off, sex furniture can make sex more comfortable, make deeper penetration easier, and make anyone’s sex life exponentially better, including plus sized babes.
Have you ever tucked a pillow under your or your partner’s butt to get better access during penetration? The steeper angle can make G-Spot attention or anal access easier, but pillows are squishy and it can be hard to get just the right height. Liberator takes that concept and kicks it up a notch with their Liberator Wedge– made of firm foam with a machine washable microfiber cover, this wedge can support anyone’s weight way better than a pillow, and you won’t have to sleep in a wet spot
If you live in a NY apartment like I do, you may be looking for something that takes up a little less space. Straps like the Plus Size Doggy Strap and Spread Eagle Sling make sometimes strenuous positions that much easier. The Doggy Strap slips under the receiver’s stomach to add a little leverage to the penetrator, giving them something to pull against as they thrust. The Spread Eagle Sling slips over your ankles and behind your head to use physics instead of muscle strength to keep your legs in the air (because, I don’t know about you, but I’ve had just about enough of leg day).
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Bex Caputo is a sex educator, blogger, speaker, and podcaster. They’ve been a proud and undeniable kinkster ever since they insisted on being served their meals in a dog bowl at the age of 8 (and even before that, probably). They’re a Virgo, a Hufflepuff, a pup, and a nonbinary queerdo who grew up into the pop-punk skater boy they always had a crush on in high school.